dear society

i am really, steadily and steadfastly losing faith in humanity, and this time for different reasons than spoiled little brats. this time it's about self-image.

pick up a magazine--any magazine, preferably one with celebrities or about fashion. do you see many "fat" girls in it?  of course not. they're all stick thin, have perfect hair and flawless makeup, and are basically drop dead gorgeous. then they have articles selling the tips on how to be beautiful to the average janes who read the magazines. people start to follow the advice--dieting like crazy, going on juice cleanses or detox's, buying a certain expensive brand of this or that to make your hair shiny like kim kardashians or your face free of blemishes like paris hilton's. want to be as thin as kate moss or vanessa hudgens? gotta hit the gy, hire a personal trainer, and deny yourself all the foods you have grown to love. all for what, ladies?  hasn't anyone realized that these people are the ones that are single and unhappy?  they try sooo hard to stay "in shape" and be thinner than this starlet or that singer, be prettier than reese wtiherspoon, and striving to be these things makes them unhappy. take a look around you. look at your friends that are like this (everyone has at least one friend like this). are they happy? do their constant crazy vegan or raw vegetable only diets make them happy?  and now look at your other friends--the ones who are of average weight and don't follow every trned or craze. the people who are happy to stay in on a friday night eating pizza and junk food, watching movies with their friends. they're happy! for goodness sake... why would you want to be labeled perfect or beautiful and be miserable when you could be a few pounds heavier and much much happier??

i'm not against working out, especially if you're obese; by all means, try to get healthy. but dont overdo it girls. its definitely not worth it. i dont know how to do my hair and sometimes it bothers me but usually im like eh, whatever--i guess it'll look messy and frizzy again today. and i have good days, usually. i dress semi-nicely for class and am going swimming 3 times a week just to stay in shape. i drink water whe i remember (which isnt often) and stay away too much starbucks, but i'm not crazy with this crap. i'm happy the way i am and i have lots of friends who stick by me and a boyfriend who loves me and family that supports anything i do.

its jsutnot fair that society dictates that we can only be pretty if we are super thin. and its not fair that if a thin girl gains a few pounds, everyone starts gossipping. or if an average girl loses a good amount of weight because she cuts the binge drinking everyone assumes she's anorexic. its not fair, so this is my message to you all--stop being judgmental about people's weight!!!

and besides--the stick thin girls just look gross. and what guy wants to date a girl who looks like a light breeze could snap her in half?

~sam